I embraced the thought way too long. All my teachers told me there was a lake of fire where I would be punished for all of eternity (can you say a long, long time?). Punishment is really not the definition for what they were describing. Torture was a better assessment. And torture is NOT God!
God didn’t create something, anything for destruction. I do believe in equity, punishment, divine judgment, and then forever LOVE!
How can we in one breath call God Abba Father and then describe the eternal hell fire and damnation that is used to depict the realm for the evil? And I thought the Catholic purgatory was bad!
We are ALL His children whom He loves.
We are all children who have gone astry!
But, our Father stands looking and waiting for us if that’s not being too anthropomorphic. And I am SAVED because His mercy WILLS it so. So are you! 
I must admit that I have the hardest time with this subject. I also admit that my difficulty might be from bad programming, yet the difficulty is there and I must acknowledge it.
Additionally, I understand that this is not the forum by which to arrive and some great epiphany of reason, due to the lack of debate and synthesis of conversation.
In short, if everyone is ultimately going to end up with a loving God, despite their choices in this life, then what is the point of it all?
Does it have something to do with the whole Kingdom on Earth thing? The idea is new to me, considering I never ventured too far from the religious tree, despite my private questionings of the things I was told were normal and absolute.
For whatever reason, I instinctively feel that divine judgement leans more to permanent separation from God, instead of experiencing judgement and arriving at Jesus’ table in Heaven after a time behind the woodshed. OR are all of these sayings and phrases just a bunch of religious hokus pokus taught to us as children to keep us in line?
Take the idea of spiritual wickedness. I believe that God cannot create evil, or anything that is anti-Him, but he gives His creations a free will to choose (including the spiritual creations). That free will somehow delivered some of his creations into a place of separation from Him, otherwise there would be no spiritual wickedness.
Extend the thought out to it’s conclusion and you have to ask, “If we will ultimately arrive with God via divine judgement (if we don’t make the right choices), then the spiritually wicked creations also must find reconciliation in the end. Yes? No? Help!
I think about “Death and Hell being cast into the lake of fire” in Revelations. I think about the serpent also being cast into the lake of fire. What does it all mean? How does it apply?
1-There will always be mysteries, none of us know it all.
2-The Kingdom begins HERE on earth, living a Kingdom lifestyle while in the 3rd dimension is how we were created.
3-Why would God create such a world where 90% of His creations spend eternity in a tormenting world? Since He’s omniscience, wouldn’t that be sadistic?
4-How can a lake of fire(hell) be thrown into a lake of fire (itself?)
and how would any of that line up with, say, Lamentations 3:31?
And as you said, this forum isn’t the vehicle to do anything but stoke the coals to see if they still have some fire. Keep stoking.